Before you make a significant change, do this one thing

Do you want to change something in your life?

  • Grow your faith?
  • Grow professionally?
  • Lose weight?
  • Improve your marriage?
  • Become a better Mother/Father?
  • Create financial margin?
  • Write a book?
  • Achieve a dream so big that you’re afraid to say it out loud?

Here’s what I know about your dream: You can’t get there alone.

Two years ago a friend of mine made an impromptu trip to Israel with a buddy. They simply bought some maps and knew enough Scripture to have a sense of what they wanted to see. When my friend returned from his trip he was a bit disillusioned because he didn’t see as much as he hoped and didn’t get much out of his trip.

A few months later, I traveled to Israel with a group that hired a local guide for our entire trip. I returned feeling like the Bible had somehow transitioned from “black and white” to “color.” For me, the trip was life changing!

The only difference between my experience and my friend’s experience was the guide.



You can change! Your big dream can happen. But you can’t get to where you want to be alone. God created you that way . . . intentionally. He made you to thrive when you humbly lean on others.

“In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.’” 1 Peter 5:5

You can change but you need a guide. This year I’m putting this principle to the test.

I want to grow professionally, improve my health, and improve our financial plan. It’s unrealistic to find one person to be my guide in all three areas so I looked for a person in each area. I didn’t require an expert – just someone further down the road.

Professionally – I emailed a retired pastor friend whose ministry I respect and asked him to invest in me. He generously agreed and immediately shared his “best practices books” to begin his investment. I anticipate learning a great deal and the only thing it costs me was the humility to ask and the time to read great books.

Health – I struggle with my weight. I hired a coach and my wife and I began choosing healthy habits together. With the help of my coach and my wife, I have lost more than 30 lbs. and we are encouraged about our future. This required a financial investment but this is the best money we’ve spent this year.

If you’re looking for a coach (health, parenting, family, etc.), I cannot recommend Shelli Birdwell highly enough. Connect with Shelli on her website HERE.

Financially – I reached out to a man and his wife who are financially responsible and further down the road than us. They generously agreed. We provided them our family budget (everything), savings, and retirement plan. Then they had us over for dessert to make recommendations to us. I cannot tell you how helpful and reassuring this was. Again, it only required our humility.

How about you? What major changes do you want to make?

Chances are God has already provided you access to a guide. Goals with a guide are likely to thrive! So, whom do you have access to that is further down the road in the area you’re wanting to change? Shoot them an email and humbly ask.

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