STUCK

When You Want to Forgive but Don’t Know How

by Mark Riggins


Now Available on Amazon

As a pastor who couldn’t forgive, I was stuck . . . for three years. Here’s what I learned:

  • Before Launch Graphics_Profile PicForgiveness is easy to understand, but hard to practice
  • When hurt takes you to a place of bitterness, you get stuck
  • Most people struggle (85% of people say they need help in order to forgive)
  • Jesus modeled specific forgiveness behaviors that will help you get unstuck
  • We often focus on why people should forgive, but this book focuses on how you can forgive.

If you want to forgive but don’t know how, then this book is for you.

What Others Are Saying

“Mark has started a conversation that the Church has desperately needed to have for a long time. Mark helps us get unstuck. Do yourself a favor and read this book.”
BEN REED, Small Groups Pastor, Saddleback Church, Lake Forest, CA

“Mark is just the man to help us navigate forgiveness. He lives what he writes, and I love that. I predict you’ll end up buying copies to give away.”
Dr. DANIEL HAHN, Lead Pastor, ENCOUNTER, Ventura, CA

“Mark’s story is one based not on theory, but on his real-life story, and aren’t those always the best? Mark’s story and insights will help you release the grip of the grudge and move forward in freedom.”
JEFF HENDERSON, Lead Pastor, Gwinnett Church (North Point Ministries) Metro Atlanta, GA

“Pastor Riggins has written a highly informative book on how to forgive. He uses engaging stories and much practical, Bible-based advice to help the hurting learn how to forgive.”
Dr. ROBERT ENRIGHT, Ph.D., Professor, University of Wisconsin-Madison & Co-founder, International Forgiveness Institute

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Announcing Two Book Signing Events

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Here are two upcoming book signings:

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Want a signed copy but live out of town? Email abednegobooks@earthlink.net or call 805.643.9350 before Feb 14 and they will mail it directly to you.

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Final words of advice from my Dad – Part 5

My Dad’s temporary journey on earth ended on January 6, 2014. During his last week, I sat with him for several hours. In an attempt to “keep him with me”, I asked him many questions. My Dad was always powerfully simple. This week I’m sharing his answers to five of my questions.

Question #1: Dad, what advice would you give me as a Dad? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #2: Dad you and Mom have been married for 46 years, what advice would you give me as a husband? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #3: I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are usually sex or money. As a pastor, did you ever have temptations to be unfaithful to Mom? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #4: I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are usually sex or money. As a pastor, were you ever tempted to be dishonest with money? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Today is the final Question #5: Dad, you’ve been a pastor for several decades, what advice do you have for me as a younger pastor?

Dad: “Stay close to God. It helps with the difficulties.”

That was it. That was the last piece of advice my Dad ever gave me.

I used to think a legacy was about doing something magnificent. Now I believe it’s about being ordinary and dependable for a long period of time while loving those closest to you. I’m proud of my Daddy’s legacy.

I guess we’re all building a legacy that will impact others aren’t we?

Thanks for sharing with me in this series.


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Final words of advice from my Dad – Part 4

My Dad’s temporary journey on earth ended on January 6, 2014. During his last week, I sat with him for several hours. In an attempt to “keep him with me”, I asked him many questions. My Dad was always powerfully simple. This week I’m sharing his answers to five of my questions.

Question #1: Dad, what advice would you give me as a Dad? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #2: Dad you and Mom have been married for 46 years, what advice would you give me as a husband? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #3: I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are sex or money. As a pastor, did you ever have temptations to be unfaithful to Mom? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Today is Question #4: Dad, I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are sex or money. As a pastor, were you ever tempted to be dishonest with money?

Dad: “There were times I wish I had more than we had but I never thought about stealing. I could never do that because my conscious would be miserable!”

Because of Dad’s integrity, I already knew the answer to this question. I sat and stared at him and felt so proud of him. The contrast between his weak body and strong character stood out.

A few days later his body would fail. His character still lives.

Tomorrow I’ll ask Question #5: Dad you were a pastor for several decades, as an older pastor to a younger pastor, what advice to you have for me?

I’ll share it tomorrow.


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Final words of advice from my Dad – Part 3

My Dad’s temporary journey on earth ended on January 6, 2014. During his last week, I sat with him for several hours. In an attempt to “keep him with me”, I asked him many questions. My Dad was always powerfully simple. This week I’m sharing his answers to five of my questions.

Question #1: Dad, what advice would you give me as a Dad? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Question #2: Dad you and Mom have been married for 46 years, what advice would you give me as a husband? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Today is Question #3: Dad, I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are usually sex and money. As a retired pastor, did you ever have temptations to be unfaithful to Mom?

Dad: “I never had any temptation with another woman because I was happy with my wife and my family.”

I sat waiting . . . hoping Dad would share more. But he said nothing.

As I sat and stared at my frail 70-year-old Dad give that simple answer, his response reminded me that some people simply choose to focus more on what they have than what they don’t have.

Tomorrow I’ll share Question #4: Dad, I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are usually sex and money. As a pastor, were you ever tempted to be dishonest with money?

I’ll share his simple answer tomorrow.


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Final words of advice from my Dad – Part 2

My Dad’s temporary journey on earth ended on January 6, 2014. During his last week, I sat with him for several hours. In an attempt to “keep him with me”, I asked him many questions. My Dad was always powerfully simple. This week I’ll share his answers to five of my questions.

Yesterday was Question #1: Dad, what advice would you give me as a Dad? (You can read Dad’s response HERE.)

Today is Question #2: Dad, you and Mom have been married for 46 years, what advice would you give me as a husband?

  • Try to get along
  • Focus on the Lord
  • Laugh together

Dad, “That’s it. Your Mom and I laughed a lot. I wish we would’ve laughed even more.”

That was it . . . powerfully simple.

Then I asked Question #3: I’ve heard that the two most common things that take a pastor down are usually sex or money. As a pastor, did you ever have temptations to be unfaithful to Mom?

I’ll share his simple answer tomorrow.


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Final words of advice from Dad – Part 1

My Dad’s temporary journey on earth ended on January 6, 2014. Knowing his time was short, I sat with him for several hours during his final days. In an attempt to “keep him with me”, I asked him many questions. (My Dad was always powerfully simple.)

This week I’ll share his answers to five of my questions.

Question #1: Dad, what advice would you give me as a Dad?

  • Stay as close to God as you can
  • Try to be an example . . . I know I failed sometimes & always felt inadequate
  • Read your Bible daily
  • Pray for your kids individually every night

As he talked I typed into the notes app on my iPhone. Then he continued, “You know, it’s hard for a kid to grow up and become something special without the intervention of his father. I prayed every night that God would make champions out of you three kids. Now, I thank him that he did.”

I felt the tears. I blinked a few times. Noticed the lump in my throat. Then cleared my throat. And said, “Thank you for being a great Dad and praying for me.”

Then I asked Question #2: Dad, what advice would you give me as a husband?

I’ll share his simple answer tomorrow.