If you’re like me, setting goals can be exhausting. Where do you start? How do you prioritize?
Here’s what I’ve learned: Writing YOUR own eulogy is more helpful than short-term or annual goals.
Last week, I wrote my Dad’s eulogy (you can read it HERE).
If you haven’t written your eulogy, it’s time to consider it. It helps you surface what’s really important to you.
Why write a eulogy?
Your GPS can’t identify the turns you will need to make until you provide the destination address. Your GPS works “backwards” from the destination.
Your personal eulogy identifies your desired destination which allows you to make all of the turns (or decisions) more clearly.
This follows Stephen Covey’s principle: “Begin with the end in mind.”
How do you write your eulogy? Here are 5 tips:
1) Get away for solitude and prayer. Jesus modeled the importance of getting away from the daily noise to hear from God.
2) Take your time. Some people take weeks researching their next car purchase but only minutes thinking through their life goals. If this is your life’s destination spend the days, weeks, or months necessary to sort it out.
3) Your eulogy may be written in complete sentences or you could simply focus on specific virtues (integrity, dependable, etc.).
4) Identify your closest relationships (spouse, children, parents, co-works, close friends, etc.).
5) Imagine each of your relationships standing briefly to speak about you at your funeral. The more specific you are the better. (Picture what they’re wearing, how they’re mourning, imagine the atmosphere, etc.) Then boil down what you want to them to say in a couple of sentences. Write out the brief words of your spouse, then your children, parents, etc..
You’ve written your eulogy. Now what?
Your eulogy becomes your over-arching “bulls-eye” for your life. When making major decisions, ask yourself, “Will saying ‘yes’ to this move me closer to my desired destination?” This is a helpful clarifier in your decision-making process. Then schedule a date on the calendar to review it annually.
In writing my Dad’s eulogy, I simply wrote what my Dad lived.
Now, it’s your turn. Choose to live what you want others to write.